
Nearly everything about living and studying in Spain continues to be excellent. The time I have to think, write, and listen to music has been invaluable and prompted surprising revelations about how to make the most of my last year of college, and what I want to do with my life. This week I’ll discuss one of the two revelations I’ve had about what I want to do with my life: two specific callings which I am making my foremost priority for this summer and the academic year that follows it. Here’s how I would sum it up in two sentences:
I love to write and make music above all else, and I am betraying myself if I ignore these passions. Specifically, I want to write on the field of self-development, make my own music, and make these two pursuits my highest priority, starting now.
On writing
One of the hardest things about college has been determining what the hell I want to do. Initially I felt best about studying government. It’s was fun to learn about the general condition of our world today and put my privileged life in perspective. Politics offered all of that, kept me sufficiently interested in my studies, and generated enough positive feedback from professors, family and friends to keep me on track. But I never loved it.
What did I love? Certainly writing, that was never a question, and it always tended to be on this particular point that I was shining in class. The simple act of writing is one that I relish more than 75% of everything else I do in a day. But writing needs a topic, and a writer needs an expertise. If you’re looking to make a career out of writing, that topic better be something you’re going to love when you’re blindsided by the inevitable storms of life, or when the reds drop an A-bomb in the middle of America. It’s got to be your passion. The urgnecy of finding a passion became clear to me after I took the Johnson’O’Connor this winter. I tested exceedingly high in foresight- not the day-in, day-out variety of the immaculate time-keeper. I am horrible at that stuff (what can I say? My dominant hemisphere of my brain doesn’t function in relation to time). The kind of foresight I am talking about is the need for firmly rooted, long-term purpose.
Purpose! The antithesis of complete spontaneity and totally in-the-moment behavior. That describes a lot of my family pretty well- better to go with what you feel than with what you plan. I sometimes act that way, too. But purpose is unfathomably more important to me than unfettered frolicking through my time on earth. The wonderful thing is that once I identified the need to find a grounding purpose- which I define here as a vision of and plan for life- I found that the answer I was looking for was already in my hands.
One of those answers was clearly writing. Not just any writing, but self-development writing. Writing that is reflective on the self and seeks to improve it. Writing that seeks to tangibly and strategically de-stress life while making it more productive and passionate. Writing that concentrates meaning and cuts out the drudgery to the greatest extent possible. The field of self-development had been intriguing to me for a long time- it struck me as an answer to what I have always perceived as a great lack of aspiration in our times. Too much reliance on cheap, mass media- too much television, too many movies, too much unhealthy food, too much complacent with crappy jobs, to much surfing on things other than water. Eventually I realized that the dreams I held were too important and too ambitious to acquiesce like that. It irked me to ignore them.
The search began during my senior year of high school. It started with learning visual memory techniques that allowed me to memorize the presidents by number permanently and within a short amount of time. Pretty soon I was using it to ace simple recall quizzes in school and boost my vocabulary. I was doing better in school by being creative! Why wasn’t anyone teaching this stuff? Next came speed reading. Within weeks I was reading 3 times faster and with far better comprehension (the number now? Closer to 5 times faster at my slowest).
But I wouldn’t say my interest in this field really manifested until the summer after sophomore year. I had just sworn off some poor lifestyle choices picked up in college and was hungry for fresh direction. Part of it came from my spirituality. But a large part of it came from reading a little book called Getting Things Done. For me, this book was a catalyst for beginning to unlock powerful, dormant dreams, thinking beyond college towards the rest of my life, undertaking a 6 days-a-week exercise regimen, taking up a vegan diet, and re-applying some of the visual memory techniques I had learned in high school to ace three difficult courses at Georgetown University.
But then I was back at Skidmore, taking 5 classes, having a go with my rock band, playing drums for a student musical, working on a campaign in addition to volunteering for it, and more. I swung too far to the other extreme of trying to get way too much done. This ultimately left me in the position of doing much less, or at least creating much less quality and value. I wasn’t dying of stress, but I was perpetually unsatisfied. The semester died down, and I ended on a good note. But it was clear I didn’t have a winning formula.
Eventually I landed in the Iberian Peninsula, and everything change. Gone were the extra distractions. Gone was the wild workload and numerous extracurriculars. Gone was the lack of introspection, perspective and renewal that my fall semester had sorely lacked. Suddenly the time for personal review was available yet again, and what I want to do for the foreseeable future became clear. It was writing, and specifically self-development writing.
It’s not just that I want to write about self-development at some point in the future. I’m responsibly throwing myself into it now. This summer I will launch a personal-development blog and treat it like an online start-up. Here are just some of the benefits I see in my choice:
1) Burning intrinsic motivation: Writing “professionally” (read: with the goal of attracting web traffic and making money) in this field is something I have an indefatigable urge to do, and it flows from a personal interest that has stood the test of time. I was already writing self-development articles before I realized I wanted to write self-development articles. It was hard to stop myself from doing it.
2) Maximum generation of value: Imagine if I committed to a generic writing and editing internship like I initially planned. Sure, it would beat the late-shift on the front end of Wal-Mart. But not by much. That’s because there’s a gaping degree of separation between the value I would be creating under those conditions and the ideal value I am creating through direct pursuit of my passion. With an internship, I wouldn’t be building the specific skills I want to invest in for a career. I wouldn’t be as happy. I certainly wouldn’t be as focused. And I would probably have no better idea of what I wanted to do in the end.
3) Timeless appeal: Pursuing self-development writing is something I can see myself doing, if only for fun for the fun of it, even if I wasn’t making any money, for my entire life- it’s the values of personal responsibility, commitment to excellence, and growth that appeal to me. But the reality is that with sufficient patience, it can be a respectable money-maker. I am in a unique position in which I can responsibly make this website my foremost priority (i.e., my job). Who knows, someday I might end up like Steve Pavlina, a popular self-development blogger who makes a 6-figure income from a website that cost him less than $20 to launch and on which he’s never spent a dime for promotion. He also recently wrote his first book (the publishers approached him after reading his writing). Even more, the background “work” for this blog includes reading hundreds of books which I would be trying (and likely failing) to find time to read anyway! It’s the ultimate excuse to study what I love.
So there you have it, a rough outline of part 1 of the 2 lifetime goals I am undertaking. I probably sound a bit ballsy, delusional, and even self-righteous writing all of this. So be it. What I’m expressing is the clearest and most exciting perspective on what to do with my life I’ve ever had. It leaves nothing inside me unsatisfied and unaddressed. It channels my vision and focus just enough. And for the first time in a good long time, I am healthily obsessed with something again.
So please, bring on the commentary! Let me know what you really think! Criticize my reasoning! Just try and eviscerate my dreams!
In case you’re confused…
Curious about just I mean by “self-development writer”? Look here, here, or here.